Signs He is Cheating, Catch Him Cheating…Now!

What should I get, if anything, for my wife on our wedding anniversary?

(17 years ago today (8-18-90), my wife and I got married, but before you answer the question up top, please read some pertinent additional information):

No, don’t buy the ho a darned thing! Adulterous people shouldn’t expect anniversary gifts from the partner that they deceived and betrayed!

If you want to stay on good terms with her, take the boys to the store with you and have THEM pick a gift that you pay for but comes from them. My brother and I used to buy my Dad and Mom gifts for their anniversary until Dad passed away and we still get them for Mom.

Steer them to practical stuff: towels, a toaster, a new frying pan. A couple of DVD’s might be good, too, since the boys will get to watch them, too. No use wasting a “good” gift like perfume or jewlery on a slut even if she is the mother of your children. Let her boyfriend buy her perfume and jewelry.

I’m really sorry that she let you down. It’s really decent of you to even think of giving her something but, as you point out, you have your 3 boys and this is more about what’s best for them than what’s best for the skank.

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Can you get one of those CIA inspired vibrators that electrocute the user? Or detonate?

infidelity

Does anyone know names of songs About Infidelity / unfaithfulness / betrayal?

Looking for some songs with really deep / strong lyrics that talk about a woman betraying or being unfaithful to a / the man (singer). Think of something like:
They were perfect together but she destroyed the relationship by cheating so he doesn’t want her back although she is begging and crying to be back…y’all get the picture.

“Screaming Infidelities” – Dashboard Confessionals
“The Best Deceptions” – Dashboard Confessionals

“There’s No Such Thing as Accidental Infidelity” – You Me At Six (Acoustic Cover)

Can a relationship/marriage survive infidelity?

Has anyone had a successful infidelity survival story?

Yes, It does require a bit of patience and a good understanding between partners. Some relationships are based on open ended situations where the partners are not mutually exclusinve. This has tobe worked out well ahead of any living together or affermation of the relationship.

If one partner is unfaithful BUT both want it to remain intact, there has to be a lost of very honest and sincere discussion about what and how the transgression came to pass.

If jealousy exists in the relationship two things are sure to happen – There will be transgressions and eventually the relationship wll break up. Jealousy in a clear basis for lack of trust. That leads to interrogations, arguements and other impositions of one person on the other. That will not work.

Basically, the unfaithful person has to acknowledge that they made a mistake – assumning the wish to continue the realtionship and will maintain a commitment not to do it again.

If it does happen a second – or more – time, than you have to decide whether to keepp the relationship together knowing that you partner is weak and liable to be unfaithful. Remember something else. Even if a person is unfaithful to the realtionship, the nig questions is – do they came “Home”. If the do, without being chased, then there is definite desire to maintain the relationship. Build on that and don’t worry about anything else.

AFFAIR SURVIVAL HELP

best book to deal with infidelity and to forgive?

I am looking for a book that helps me to forgive my husband. its been almost 2 years since it happened and still think of it every night when im lying next to him. i’ve been in thereapy but they keep telling me to write a journal with my thought, guess what! that doesnt help!!!
I was looking online some books but there are so many that i dont know.
i want to forgive him and be able to picture us in the future but i cant do it with that pain in my heart.

Try a combo of The Bible and “The Power of a Praying Wife” by Stormie O’Martian. Which you can buy used.

http://www.stormieomartian.com/

One favorite line is when she is having a conversation with God..and He wants her to pray to change.

She says “why should I pray to change when he is the one that NEEDS to change?”

God answers her, “its not a matter of who NEEDS to change its a matter of who is WILLING to change.”

It helps relieve some of the anger issues anyway.

Rebecca Dakin on ITV’s This Morning talking about “The Girlfriend Experience”

How long till the hurt goes away? A planned pregnancy, he cheated, I left him, now he avoids me…?

We were together 4 yrs and he had problems with infidelity, but we were in counselling and he had me convinced he was really sure our relationship meant the world to him and he would never do it again-that at 45 yrs old he was really ready to commit for good.

your life will get better, u did the right thing by leaving him, he is a coward with bad character, best to know now than after u married him. just a low life, he just doesn’t want responsibility, doesn’t like your kid, if he is offering financial help it is still more than some get. takes time to get over the hurt, that u chose to trust someone that maybe u shouldn’t have, but we all make mistakes and learn by them. u will feel better when u no longer expect anything of him, what hurts is u thought he would be there for u, in your mind u created this way you wanted your life to be, and u see now it just isn’t going to be this way, because he ran out on u, and changed his mind. he did u a great injustice, sounds as if he doesn’t want to deal with the responsibility of a family. theres not much u can do, only know this is something within him, that isn’t quite normal, that u couldn’t see before. best to know this, and see the truth that he is never going to be there or help with the child. so sorry for u, get some help, maybe some spiritual therapy. when something like this happens to us, it shakes our world, makes us feel so insecure, but hang in there, and life will get better.

She’s Not Pregnant, It’s a Trap! (Part 1)