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Can he love me again After Infidelity?

I have been married for 10 years and had an emotional affair after the birth of my second child due to lack of attention and self esteem. We had a one time fling as well. My husband found out about it and has been very up and down with his emotions about it. First love, then hate, then love….I just want to know if it can ever be the same? Can he love me again? He says he loves me but he isn’t in love with me anymore? What do I do?

It takes time to heal after such an emotional trauma. It is very common for the betrayed spouse to undergo a roller coaster of emotions in the first year especially after discovery.

You are the best person to help him heal. He needs you to help rebuild the trust that was so severely damaged. This will take time. Affairs are tangled into a web of lies to keep the fantasy going. Sometimes, those lies are just as hurtful as the actions. Be open and have compassionate honesty. Answer his questions with patience, he will ask over and over.
Let him see that you ended all contact with any other men, offer him full access to any communication you have, your cell, voice mail, email, messaging, etc. Let him see if he feels the need. You damaged the trust, it’s up to you to rebuild it. As he sees that you are doing the ‘right thing’, he will feel the need to look less and less.
Be accountable for your time, let him know if anything changes. Keep those lines of communication wide open. If the other man contacts you or you run into him, end it quickly and let your husband know. Any secrets at this point will damage that fragile trust.

Telling him this will not happen again is just words. Make a plan to protect yourself and your marriage in the future.

Keep reassuring him of your love, He now struggles with doubts. Make time for each other as a couple. Date. It’s hard for couples with children. You get so child centered and forget what drew you both together to begin with.

Look into finding some help. A safe place to vent. Try to find a counselor who is certified in marriage counseling with experience with infidelity. You might have to try more than one. Or, try a marriage weekend program, such as Retrouvaille.

Yes, he can love you again. He is hurt and confused. Marriages can survive this, but it takes lots of effort from both of you to recover.

Emotional affair help

how do handle Financial Infidelity in a relationship?

he takes money out of the ATM without my knowledge and overdraws the account, he buys me small things and said someone else paid or he got it for free, he spends on things we don’t need. When I confront him he acts like it’s no big deal. He carries the money so I never know what we have to work with because he won’t tell me. I want to carry my own paycheck ,which is direct deposited into a joint account which he takes out, and I’m thinking of getting my own account so he doesn’t mees my credit up much more. I want to save and spend wisely but he makes it difficult. I see an argument in the future if I tell him my plans. Any advice?

I would turn off the TV. Get him to face me, and then say this: “I want to discuss something with you that is INCREDIBLY important to me. I need you to listen to me so that I can let you know how I feel.”

This is NOT normal behavior, and even a guy who can’t catch a hint will recognize that this is really important to you.

Relate exactly what you have written in your question to him and let him know that you value his input and that you value WORKING TOGETHER on your finances.

When my bride and I started working together on our finances – THAT is the moment that we started winning with money!

In fact, I have went on a crusade to help others with their personal finances. You can read my daily blog at http://www.josephsangl.com

Asia – The Last to Know (1983)

Is watching pornography a form Of Infidelity?

If not, why do some consider an Emotional Affair Infidelity? Both are similar in that one is getting their physical and emotional needs met outside of the marriage.Is there really a difference? Is lusting after women watching pornography o.k. as long as you don’t fall in love. If pornography is acceptable, shouldn’t emotional affairs be o.k. too just as long as you don’t have intercouse? What say you self righteous people of YA?
The issue is infidelity, not cheating. Just because your spouse knows about and accepts a behavior does not mean that the behavior is not a form of infidelity and harmful to the marriage.
April….Your answer is very interesting. Can’t someone be addicted to real sex as well? If it is an addiction, then it can be treated, therefore it is not an affair. That’s what you said!

I feel that it is… According to the Bible somewhere in the book of Matthew it says that if you look upon someone to lust after them then you already have commited adultery in your heart and mind. Same as doing it in person in God’s eyes. Pornography is a sin and should not be watched at all or looked at…. Pornography is all about lust adultery and sick ways of sex and affairs… It is not about love and anything wholesome at all…. Do you ever see anyone being true to anyone in pornography and any real love there? I think not.

What is an “emotional” Affair?

Should a man compete for his own wife?

Should a man respond to an infidelity by upping his game and competing for his wife’s attention, or is this bound to fail? On the other hand, if he takes a hard attitude toward her is he more likely to lose her forever or will she worry about losing him?

he needs to dump her….once trust is gone there is no way of getting it back

Emotional Affair: How To Move Past an Emotional Affair

Answer these questions……………………?

As researchers we need to define our variables; what constitutes cheating? For example, does talking on the phone or chatting on the Internet count?
Is cheating always destructive or can it improve a relationship?
How does the media portray infidelity?
Many people say they would never cheat on their partner, yet people do. Why is there this discrepancy between what people say they do and actual behavior?
• How do researchers define cheating (use text or reputable internet sources)

i think you are in my online class. im pretty sure this is considered cheating.

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