Should Yahoo!Answers create a “cheating” or “infidelity” catagory?
It seems that the majority of the questions asked, specifically in marriage and divorce are centered somewhere in infidelity. Additionally, these questions get the most responses.
I know it is terrible that there is so much of the infidelity going on, but just an idea – Your thoughts?
I think they should. It would cut down on the same dumb questions asked daily about cheating spouses.
Is there a correlation between the changing roles of women and the high divorce rate in America?
For example back in the day, women traditonally stayed home and took care of the house and kids, and the divorce rate was much lower. But now more and more women are working full time. Do you think that this is what is causing higher rates Of Infidelity, particularly in the workplace where having an affair is relatively common? Are co-worker relationships with the opposite sex damaging to a marriage?
Women are more financially independent nowdays & I think you can contribute that to high divorce rate. But the way you ask the question suggest that higher divorce might be due to women cheating at workplace? I think you’re incorrect.
Having an equal power with a man means that a woman has a say in their marriage & have the choice of leaving if things don’t live up to her standards. Which sounds bad but guess what, men do this all the time- since back in the days. Back then women didn’t have much choice b/c leaving would mean poverty etc, but now, thank goodness that’s not necessarily an option.
I’m divorced and honestly I am because I could afford it. My marriage was pretty bad & I stucked it out for almost 5 years. At the end I realized it wasn’t going to work out so I bailed out. The older women in my life (mostly family members) just looked at me in awe and say “You’re lucky you get to choose to leave a bad marriage because you could. We didn’t have a choice even if we wanted to.”
So no, I don’t think the fact women work causes higher rates of infidelity at the work place- but I do think the fact women work causes higher rate of divorce.
What do you do when you have a cold hearted spouse?
My husband and I have been married a little over a year now and about a month ago he told me that he doesn’t have any emotion left in him. We’ve had problems in our relationship that caused this wall between us (it wasn’t infidelity). I love my husband so much but he’s also told me that he didn’t know if he wanted to continue to work on our marriage or not. He says that he wakes up and goes to sleep with a “whatever happens, happens” type of thinking meaning if I choose to leave him it wouldn’t hurt him. How do I get him to love me more or give more with our marriage? I’ve explained to him that the first year of marriage is the hardest but I just don’t know if to leave it alone or keep pushing for something that isn’t there anymore.
It takes 2 to make the marriage work. If he has that attitute and is unwilling to try…….I think you are doomed.
I have been married for 10 years and had an emotional affair after the birth of my second child due to lack of attention and self esteem. We had a one time fling as well. My husband found out about it and has been very up and down with his emotions about it. First love, then hate, then love….I just want to know if it can ever be the same? Can he love me again? He says he loves me but he isn’t in love with me anymore? What do I do?
It takes time to heal after such an emotional trauma. It is very common for the betrayed spouse to undergo a roller coaster of emotions in the first year especially after discovery.
You are the best person to help him heal. He needs you to help rebuild the trust that was so severely damaged. This will take time. Affairs are tangled into a web of lies to keep the fantasy going. Sometimes, those lies are just as hurtful as the actions. Be open and have compassionate honesty. Answer his questions with patience, he will ask over and over.
Let him see that you ended all contact with any other men, offer him full access to any communication you have, your cell, voice mail, email, messaging, etc. Let him see if he feels the need. You damaged the trust, it’s up to you to rebuild it. As he sees that you are doing the ‘right thing’, he will feel the need to look less and less.
Be accountable for your time, let him know if anything changes. Keep those lines of communication wide open. If the other man contacts you or you run into him, end it quickly and let your husband know. Any secrets at this point will damage that fragile trust.
Telling him this will not happen again is just words. Make a plan to protect yourself and your marriage in the future.
Keep reassuring him of your love, He now struggles with doubts. Make time for each other as a couple. Date. It’s hard for couples with children. You get so child centered and forget what drew you both together to begin with.
Look into finding some help. A safe place to vent. Try to find a counselor who is certified in marriage counseling with experience with infidelity. You might have to try more than one. Or, try a marriage weekend program, such as Retrouvaille.
Yes, he can love you again. He is hurt and confused. Marriages can survive this, but it takes lots of effort from both of you to recover.
Boehner has been involved in extramarital affairs with at least two women, according to a new report in the National Enquirer. We don’t normally cite supermarket tabloids as primary source material. But the Enquirer was first to write about the John Edwards’ infidelity, and the newspaper proved to be right on target. And back in the early ’90s, the mainstream press picked up on the Bill Clinton/Gennifer Flowers story after it broke in a tabloid.
In Boehner’s case, the Enquirer gets into specifics–and that gives the story a ring of truth:
Capitol Hill insiders and political bloggers have been buzzing about an upcoming New York Times probe–detailing an alleged affair that the 61-year-old married father of two had with pretty Washington lobbyist LISBETH LYONS.”
My god. The GOP has a hatrick on house leadership scumbags
This is Amazing.
This is an amazing run of GOP house leadership that are either criminals or have a serious ethics problem.
Tom Delay sentenced for 3 years. Newt Gingrich Charged with ethics violations and disiplined by the house and forced to resign as speaker and give up his seat. Now Boehner.
